Often times, I have witnessed people getting super-annoyed because they “feel” a certain way that they have been told not to. We have been taught that certain emotions are ACCEPTABLE whereas some are UN-acceptable.
The environment that a child is exposed to in their early years (0 to 8) help them create these beliefs, and eventually these beliefs sink into the mega-pool in our minds also called as the sub-conscious.
Believe me when I say this:
I know how it feels to have your emotions invalidated — to the point when you don’t even want to express them anymore!
You have been taught to label your emotions as Good vs Bad. Labeling emotions as good and bad is something we have been taught and conditioned with.
Let us shift into a new paradigm — identifying the emotion!
Here’s a simpler way to help you name your emotions correctly. This chart is called the “Emotion Wheel”. It is advised to approach it from the outer circle and moving all the way to the inner circle.
When we are not aware of our emotions, what’s actually happening as a result of it is:
The moment we feel an emotion that is “not good”, we have a tendency to instantly go into this mode of denial where we would literally do ANYTHING to get rid of the emotion because it is uncomfortable. The more the discomfort, the more the pain, the greater is the tendency to take the escape route.
It becomes uncomfortable because you are judging it!
Come back to your Self:
Your emotions are the messengers of your Personal Truth. If you are willing to become your authentic self, face those emotions — dive into them, talk to them, go deeper to the core of the experience from where it is coming. Chances are that these emotions are surfacing from a part of you which is calling for your love and attention (your inner child)!
This is not an easy task especially if you’re someone who has the tendency to run away from your emotions. It takes a lot of courage to sit with yourself in that discomfort and to feel those emotions. There’s an aspect of us — our conditioned-self a.k.a The Ego, that comes into the picture — making this inner-work more difficult than it already is.
Practice acceptance and compassion towards your emotions and towards yourself.
Your uncomfortable emotions are not going to magically disappear. You have been looking outside of yourself for such a major part of your life! Now, your inner being will demand more of your attention towards your subconscious, your shadows will make themselves recognizable and the opinions, judgements and beliefs you have picked up as part of your conditioning are going to come forth into the Light.
It’s not going to be easy.
The only way out is THROUGH.
THIS IS YOUR CALL.
Commit to your personal growth, commit to your inner-work, commit to this journey to your True Self.
Tip: If you feel it is too overwhelming, then do not do it alone. Get in touch with a mentor, a coach or a therapist or a community or ALL!
There is so much Light on the other side of this gooey healing journey and I can’t wait to meet you there! Love & Light ❤
